Having trouble setting up my nodes.

I want to use my Trezor through my own node. I know nothing of linux but went with it anyway, installed bitcoind and lightning node on an old laptop. Was told I needed electrum server. Realized the code is not maintained anymore. Started to go with ElectrumX. Realized it’s even less noob friendly. Every step takes me ages.

I feel like every time I manage to figure it out, I face another wall and am kinda fed up. Is there an easier way? I feel like this process should definitely be easier if we want to encourage bitcoiners to use hardware wallets through their own nodes.. maybe I missed something. I consider myself perseverant and can guarantee you only a handful of people I’ve met would go through all this hassle. 99% would have quit.

Anyway.. is Umbrel easier to deal with? What are my options? Any pointers or guides to install everything again from scratch on my laptop? I would also like to learn to get involved with lightning.